I hope these tips help you flow through your child’s tantrums in a responsive, minimally emotional way that leads to shorter, less frequent tantrums and less parent exhaustion!
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Parent-Friendly Tips & Tools for Remote Learning
Initially published by the Public Schools of Brookline.
Tip #1 - Set-up a consistent workspace for your student.
Reduce distractions as much as possible.
Have materials (i.e., pencil, paper, eraser) handy.
Provide headphones.
Have fidgets available for students who need them.
Tip #2 - Help your student follow a daily routine.
Write or print the daily schedule.
For young children, split the day’s schedule into am/pm.
Write on or plan movement or social activities during breaks (see tip # 3 and 4).
Set reminders on devices or use timers.
Tip #3 - Connect with your student in person or via phone during the day.
Ask about what s/he did in school so far or ask about specific subjects.
Give your student positive feedback for working hard and participating in school activities that day.
Plan fun movement breaks, activities, or lunch that you can do together (if possible).
Let your student know when you will connect.
Tip #4 - Plan fun movement breaks.
Outside activity ideas - scooter, walk, hopscotch, basketball/football/soccer
Inside activity ideas - Go Noodle, Just Dance, dance party, freeze dance, 10 push-ups, jumping jacks, squats
Do yoga outside or inside.
Tip #5 - Plan social breaks.
Schedule Zoom snack breaks with friends.
Make a lunch date with a friend via Zoom or socially distant outside.
Tip #6 - Do mindfulness activities to manage stress and anxiety.
Encourage your student to take deep breaths when showing signs of stress.
Draw, doodle, or color during breaks and after school.
Listen to relaxing music.
Just breathe.
Say something positive.
Tip #7 - Support literacy.
Read with your student when you can.
Ask your student about the book or story s/he is reading or listening to.
Discuss a book you have read or are reading.
Tip #8 - Encourage daily math practice.
Follow a recipe - point out fractions, add, subtract, multiply, divide, measure.
Count everything - food items, jumping jacks, pencils, legos.
Play math games - UNO, Dominoes, Connect 4
Tip #9 - Motivate your student.
Praise your student for doing his/her best work and following expectations.
Plan preferred after-school and weekend activities to reward your student for working hard during remote learning.
Start a Hard-Work Jar - add a cotton ball to the jar to reward your student for working extra hard - plan a bonus fun activity when the jar is full.
Tip #10 - Take care of yourself.
Recognize it is okay to be stressed and worried.
Plan activities for your emotional or physical wellness - go for a walk, enjoy a treat, talk to a friend.
Express gratitude.
Focus on what you can control.
How Do You Minimize Everyday Chaos in a COVID-19 World?
Originally posted on Beyond Booksmart Blog: https://www.beyondbooksmart.com/executive-functioning-strategies-blog/how-establishing-routines-helps-students-cope-with-a-pandemic
Predictability. Just the word itself provokes a sense of calm. Unfortunately, the world we live in at the moment is probably going to be the most unpredictable we have and will ever experience and none of it is in our control. We have a choice to allow this fact to overwhelm us or we can focus on what we can control. What can we do to make our personal worlds more calm, stable, and enjoyable?
One way to accomplish this is to establish daily routines that can create a sense of stability even if there are many unknowns in our life. Children and young adults particularly thrive when they can follow daily routines that remain more or less the same. This is especially true now. Establishing before school, after school, and nighttime routines is essential for promoting cooperation and minimizing frustration during otherwise chaotic times. Whether school is at home or in-person, creating consistent routines will help the whole family deal with everyday life with more openness and acceptance.
The first step is to determine the steps in the routines. Here are samples of daily routines geared for younger children for both in-person and remote learning. Older children also need routines but they may not need the specific steps to be as detailed or even written down.
In-School Learning
Before School:
Get ready for the day
Eat breakfast & Check-in -
How are you doing today?
Pack backpack
Put on shoes and jacket
After School
Unpack backpack
Eat snack
Play outside
Do homework
Get ready for sports
Go to practice
Nighttime
Eat dinner
Take a shower
Watch one TV show
Brush teeth
Go to bed
Remote Learning
Morning
Get ready for the day
Eat breakfast & Check-in -
How are you doing today?
Create an agenda for the day
Morning movement
Start school work
Take a break - social time with friends
Afternoon
Eat lunch
Do school work
Exercise
Have social time with friends
Relax
Evening
Eat dinner
Take a shower
Watch one TV show
Brush teeth
Go to bed
Once you have created your routines (i.e., morning, after school, nighttime), you want to be sure all of your family members know those routines. Here are some tips on how you can easily communicate daily routines for you and your family:
Post visual schedules in pictures for non-readers and words for readers so that everyone knows the plan for the day. This can be done via computer, chalkboard, bulletin board, or whiteboard. There are also many apps that help you create the schedules and either view them on a device or print them out. Cozi is a great app that can be shared with older children. Print weekly schedules and post them. You can also create a monthly calendar of family events and post the calendar. Everyone can look forward to enjoyable events and be prepared for those less preferred activities.
Highlight changes and unusual events in your schedule and then discuss them ahead of time so that everyone knows what is going to happen.
For children and adults who may have difficulty remembering all the tasks required during morning, after school, or nighttime routines, create a visual schedule of the specific steps involved in the routine. Some kids really like to check off completed steps while others like to see the routine outlined and posted in one place. Be sure to post it in a location that makes sense for the routine. For example, post the nighttime or morning dressing routine in the bedroom or bathroom.
Use checklists and charts to outline chores, rules, and other expectations you would like to communicate (and track, i.e. chores). You can also use charts to track chore completion and make rewards easy to determine.
If children are doing remote learning, creating a daily agenda that includes any synchronous classes, required school work, social time, and exercise. Making written agendas/To Do lists will help everyone stay focused and be productive. Checking off completed tasks will also be very rewarding.
Although routines require some work up front, the pay-off can be huge. You will find that your family is on top of things, less stressed, and more cooperative. They may even start asking, “What’s the plan?” and “Where is the schedule?”.
One last tip - establish a nice routine for yourself. Make Mondays your day to have lunch with a friend or colleague. Stop and get a coffee on your way to work or after you drop your kids off at school. Exercise on Fridays. Don’t forget to create your own sense of predictability in what seems to be an increasingly less stable world.